The level of tolerance for frustration depends on each person and when it is low it manifests itself in many ways. An example: Alicia is 23 years old and has gone on a trip with her family. Before boarding the plane, he realizes that his identity document is not in his carry-on bag, where it should be. Enraged, she blames her mother for having washed her clothes the day before and for packing her suitcase wrong.
Probably, if she had carried out these tasks, which are hers and not her mother’s, she would not have forgotten her document at home. Alicia is an example of low tolerance to frustration without knowing it, because it arises when negatively managing feelings in stressful situations. And you, are you one of those who drown in a glass of water?
“Frustration is caused by a society that asks us to be what we are not and blames us for being what we are. Right now, everything is still run by men; the woman is in clear imbalance. To begin with, we must balance the equality of men and women “
“My wishes are orders”
Virtually all children have a low tolerance for frustration. In the learning process, the ability to cope with situations in which you do not get everything you want is developed, whether it is another child playing with you, your mother buying you some jelly beans or you have dropped your ice cream and do not want to buy you another.
However , there are some people who never understand that their wishes will not always be satisfied and that the environment will interfere with their preferences, since there are other people, also with their own desires and aspirations, as well as technical, environmental and technical problems. many others.
There are many modalities. However, low tolerance for frustration is usually expressed when the person faces a stressful situation in which case they react with anger, rage or excessive melancholy to situations that most people are capable of resolving within themselves.
In the most serious cases, a low tolerance for frustration can lead to problems related to drug use, social self-marginalization, or suicide.
“Frustration is an interesting emotional state, because it tends to bring out the worst in someone who is frustrated”
Solve your low tolerance for frustration
There are four indicators that are useful to classify a person with low tolerance for frustration:
- The person with BTF cannot differentiate his wants from his needs.
- Their reactions to an unsatisfied desire are manifested with an explosion of feelings that oscillate between excessive insistence and anger, even going so far as to verbally attack the person “in charge” of meeting their unmet needs.
- They have trouble accepting that life doesn’t have to be easy and comfortable, as they strive to believe it should be. In fact, they cling to “should be” and do not accept that “is”.
- They have an excruciating fear of failure and low levels of patience.
Low tolerance for frustration has been defined as a significant emotional disorder capable of breaking up families , friendships, and work and romantic relationships. The truth is that people who suffer from it can take advantage of aspects of themselves such as insistence, non-verbal aggressiveness and their excessive capacity for persuasion to develop these skills in a positive way towards their environment while they will learn to relax.
Consult not your fear, but your hopes and dreams. Don’t think about your frustrations, but about your potential ”
However, the negative reversal of the person who accepts his low tolerance for frustration, without wanting to change it, can manifest itself in numerous compulsive diseases such as trichotillomania (touching and pulling one’s hair), compulsive shopping, kleptomania, self-mutilation, pyromania or explosive disorder intermittent (outbursts of anger without apparent cause).
Acceptance as a path
Acceptance is a process by which we begin to internalize that not everything will turn out the way we want and that we cannot control everything around us. Our control over the world is limited, very limited, and within a limitation we are subject to change. So the best thing is to start integrating into our thinking that control of everything is impossible.
“If something has a solution, why so much concern? If you don’t have it, why so much grief? “
Another fundamental aspect is knowing that there are other points of view. Our opinion is that, ours, nobody else’s. Ten people in the same situation can react differently, and who is right? Why do we have it? It is written in our learning history that we have always been right, by hook or by crook, but it has not always been that way. So opening your mind and accepting new points of view will not only free us from anger, but it will enrich us as a person.
We all want to be happy, but things don’t always turn out the way we would like. Given this fact, it is best to see what has happened, analyze it and try to prevent it from happening again. What do we gain by staging a drama? Nothing. So we are going to look at everything that we really have no control over and we are going to start freeing ourselves from unnecessary ties.