Fear is an emotion of protection and alert to danger. When the danger is not real, the fear becomes pathological. Even so, it is still an emotion that teaches us something deep about ourselves and, if we know how to identify it, we will overcome it and we will have managed to know ourselves more deeply.
If you think about all the fears that you have treasured, that you have faced, surely you have drawn a clear conclusion: they were not so bad. Much of its solidity was nothing more than a ghost appearance, the little pig’s house that decided to make it out of straw.
What is fear?
Fear is a reaction of our body and especially of our mind to a situation, animal or person that we interpret as dangerous or unpleasant. It is an emotion, in principle, of survival, since it protects us from risk and danger, but, on many occasions, there is no such danger, although we feel fear as well.
The fear, can become a limiting reaction in our daily life, because it can block us to the point of not being able to react. On the other hand, it is prone to increase in size when we do not expose it to reality.
” Only one thing makes an impossible dream: the fear of failure “
Since we are born, we are living, observing and experiencing emotions, pleasant and also unpleasant, among them, fear. Depending on the experiences lived, fear can develop as a protective reaction to prevent the unpleasant situation experienced previously from happening.
As one of our primary emotions, fear, keeps with it valuable information about us and all those unpleasant situations that we live and that it intends not to happen to us again.
All our emotions are stored in our subconscious mind , and therefore, we are not aware of the information they reserve, regarding past experiences.
Coping and not avoiding
As fear appears in our lives, we tend to avoid the situations we fear, so as not to have a bad time again. However, it is not a good decision, since we do not learn anything while we are avoiding it. And on the contrary, it is becoming stronger and more resistant to eliminate it.
By avoiding fear we only feed it. In our minds we are getting smaller and smaller in front of him, who seems to have more and more weapons and points from which to attack us. This is noticeable not only in our degree of fear but also in the degree to which it conditions our lives.
“Fear is natural in the prudent, and knowing how to overcome it is to be brave “
-Alonso de Ercilla and Zúñiga-
Eliminate fear, get to know each other
To overcome fear there is no other way than to face it, overcome it and thus obtain the satisfaction that this can bring us. At the same time, to face it, it is good to discover something more about ourselves, that is, to know through fear, its origin, its meaning and our interpretation of danger.
To do this, we will discover in ourselves abilities and capacities that we did not have, and that now make fear unnecessary, since we will realize that we now have strategies to deal with the feared situation, probably originating in childhood, when not yet. we had strategies to cope with life.
On the other hand, in certain resistant fears that we feel incapable of facing, it would be convenient to consult a specialist. He will look for the most appropriate strategy so that it conditions our life or less possible and even so that we can overcome it.
“Nothing in life should be feared, only understood. Now is the time to understand more, to fear less “
Be attentive to emotions
It is always interesting to be attentive to all our emotions and, with this, to become aware of the information that is sub-consciously saved from each of them.
Any emotion helps us to know ourselves, since they tell us how we see ourselves, what we like or dislike, what hurts us or makes us happy and what situations remind us of past experiences, whether they are more or less happy.
Being aware of them will always be valuable information about ourselves, to work on personal aspects that may be weakened or unrealistic in relation to the present moment that we live.
Grow and feel more secure
On many occasions, because we are not aware of our own growth and maturation, we feel emotions that correspond to past experiences, usually from the childhood period. However, we grow up with them, and we continue to interpret present situations with the same danger that we did when we were little. This story by J. Bucay beautifully reflects this circumstance.
Knowing ourselves through fear is being aware of what blocks and limits us, re-interpreting apparently dangerous situations and transforming them in our mind as situations that we are capable of facing, since we have grown, and we have strategies to face them successfully.
Recognizing our capabilities allows us to feel more secure to face any fear, from the present moment, erasing the mark that the past left on us.