Most of the people who come for consultation do so driven by internal needs for improvement promoted by states of instability. Patients who come to therapy usually do so when they are close to losing control, hitting rock bottom. That is when psychologists realize the great strength and value of these people, who instead of getting lost in excuses they confront themselves.
Despite the many clichés and society’s ignorance of the functions of psychologists, patients face therapy seeing in it an opportunity to relocate their lives. They will have to learn to unlearn the behaviors, habits and thoughts that have gotten them there.
I want to make the patients who come to the consultation known as brave people with a great sense of responsibility towards themselves, not as the “crazy” that a society full of ignorance and fear insists on selling us.
“Psychology, unlike chemistry, algebra or literature, is a manual for your own mind. It is a guide for life “
Psychologists do not give advice, we do therapy
If you need advice, go to your best friend, partner or family, they know you better than anyone to advise you. But if you need someone to explain your behavior and why you feel this way, choosing the techniques and the appropriate treatment for your personal characteristics, then that is when you will have to go to a psychologist.
We are well aware of how difficult it is to make the decision to make an appointment with a psychologist. For this reason, we always try to give as much information as possible from the beginning and we try that during therapy the person knows exactly what we are working on and why.
For psychologists it is very rewarding when we appreciate, after having worked through many thoughts and emotions that hurt the person, that now he can exercise control over them. When this happens, the patient feels much better, begins to do more activities, approaches problem situations from another perspective and is able to filter his thoughts to see them in a much more objective way.
We are convinced that many people would take the step of seeking psychological help if they saw the results that are achieved, both personally and socially.
“The primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation, but your thoughts about it. Be aware of the thoughts you are having “
We learn with our patients
Psychotherapy is an experiential and dialogue process where therapist and patient influence each other, there is mutual learning and transformation. Not only does the patient change, learn and transform, so do the therapists, to a greater or lesser extent.
As any good teacher would, our patients teach us by example. It is necessary to clarify what it means for us that our patients teach us. In fact, when we tell a patient how much we admire him for his bravery or for his decision, a look of perplexity and amazement arises in him or her, as if he does not believe that he is also teaching us.
All, without distinction, patients and therapists are exposed to suffering and disappointment, while on the other hand we share a deep desire to improve our sense of well-being, enjoying greater joy and peace. Our patients do not come to our office to teach us something explicitly, but rather do it implicitly with their clarity, their commitment to their own processes and their ability to make the necessary decisions.
“Psychology cannot tell people how they should live their lives. However, it can provide meaning for effective personal and social change “
Psychologists cry too
Psychologists also cry, get frustrated or angry. There is no story that leaves you indifferent and does not change you a little inside.