Being unable to stop thinking is something terrible, that mental noise that constantly accompanies us prevents us from finding our inner stillness and to a greater extent, the connection with ourselves.
You are not your mind
We live in a time of speed and indeterminacy, surrounded by thousands of tasks that we sometimes put off with the idea of carrying them out later because now we don’t have time … While we are making this decision, another idea is landing on the track of our mind that It contributes to our overload, and we end the day feeling like we haven’t done everything we set out to do. And in the case of having done it with a terrible feeling of fatigue and irritability because we still have so many other things to do …
We live backwards and forwards, our now fading and surrounded by a lot of noise, that of the street and our own. We have become addicted to our thinking, and as a result, we have disconnected from ourselves.
That mental noise that accompanies us, thought, in addition to preventing us from having moments of calm, also has the ability to create a false self manufactured by the mind, which throws a layer of suffering and fear over us. But why does it happen?
We often identify with our thinking, with our mind creating an opaque screen of a large number of labels, concepts, words, judgments, images that block the true relationship with ourselves. And so we believe that we are our mind, the instrument seizing us.
” It is quite common for our own internal voice to be our worst enemy and we live with a torturer in our heads who attacks and punishes us, depleting our vital energy .”
We have to learn to observe and distance ourselves with respect to the thoughts and emotions that we arouse, so that we know how to distinguish between the act of having a thought, the content of the thought and the person (us) who is giving account of it. For this I propose “The metaphor of the chessboard” ( Wilson and Luciano, 2002 ) to demonstrate the importance of an observer who recognizes and accepts.
The chess board
Imagine a chess board. In it the pieces are in battle with each other, while the board acts as a mere observer. The board never loses, but the pieces are fighting, being eliminated at times. Now let’s put ourselves in our case. If we find ourselves fighting our fears and worries with the black or white pieces, the game will never end, since when one game ends, another will begin, entering a dead end loop. The question is in playing the game serving as a board, that is, observing the fight without participating. Thus we can identify the figures with what we think or even feel, remembering and witnessing that this does not make up our identity, we are not the thought, but the board capable of containing all the cognitive contents. Since as I indicated previously, verbalizations, words and thoughts, however true they may seem, are not facts.
Note: The mind is a superb instrument if used correctly. However, if used incorrectly it becomes very destructive . ( Eckhart Tolle )