Strategies For Talking About Sensitive Topics

Sexuality, life goals, feelings, relationships and friendship are some of the sensitive issues that can cause us more problems when talking about them. The difficulty of dealing with each topic is different for each person, since it depends a lot on their own personality and characteristics. An issue that is not important for some is too important for others.

For this reason, today we are going to provide some strategies to talk about sensitive issues that can come in handy if we want to address some of the issues mentioned. Because we don’t have to talk about them.

Prepare for the conversation

There are some things that we must take into account before starting a sensitive conversation, in this way we can better understand our motives and have more solid arguments. The most important aspects to take into account are feelings, beliefs and ideas. This process is complicated, but it is necessary to have an easier and more accurate conversation.

“Only when the mind is free of ideas and beliefs can it act correctly.”

-Jiddu Krishnamurti-

The questions that can help you better organize your ideas and arguments before starting a conversation on a sensitive topic are the following:

  • What is the situation that is generating this negative situation for me?
  • What feelings am I having?
  • How could you improve or change the situation?
  • Do I want to be well or just be calm ?
  • What am I looking to achieve?
  • What consequences will this situation have on my future?
  • What are the best solutions?
  • If you saw another person in my situation, what would you recommend?

Of course, these questions are very difficult to answer and you will need time to think about the solutions. But once you’ve gone through this process, it will be easier for you to keep the conversation going on those sensitive topics that are affecting you.

During the conversation

If you are ready to carry on that conversation, the first thing to do is eliminate all possible distractions. This implies turning off cell phones, television, computer, etc. When you are ready, start by exposing your feelings.

Speak clearly and directly about what you are feeling and thinking. It is important that you express yourself fully, that you show your feelings (frustration, stress, sadness, etc.) but that you do not try to blame or attack the other party.

When you have expressed yourself, it will be time to listen to the other person. You must be willing to listen without interruption and attentively, in the same way that you were.

General tips that you should take into account

Lastly, although it may be a conversation that covers a sensitive topic for you, it is important to take into account the other person’s feelings. Sometimes we make comments with which we seek to defend ourselves, but that hurt others and do not help to solve the situation.

It is also vital to actively listen to the other person. This involves paying attention to what it tells us, rather than focusing on our point of view. A conversation like this can help us define clearer limits and goals.

“When you speak, you only repeat what you already know; but when you listen, you may learn something new ”.

-Dalai Lama-

The importance of talking about sensitive topics

Sensitive topics can cause us insecurity,  unhappiness, fear and put us in a situation that, we believe, will be negative. However, facing these conversations can help us take control over certain aspects that affect our lives. But most importantly, talking about sensitive topics helps to break down our limitations.

How do you approach sensitive issues? Do you avoid or address them? We encourage you to put the aforementioned tips into practice, so that from now on you can treat them without any concern. Because talking about these types of topics is as important as if we deal with others of another type.

Courtesy of Carlos Magariños

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