There’s Nothing Like Getting Where Others Said You Wouldn’t

There is nothing like leaving behind the “you can’t”, “you don’t know” , “you don’t deserve”. Because reaching where others said you would not do it is not only a personal triumph: it is an act of justice before retrograde minds, before those who were never able to see us with authenticity, respect and closeness.

Something we all know is that we live in a society subject to comparison, and especially to an educational system that “labels” us early.  In the classrooms, the so-called “bad students” inhabit those last rows about whom it is prophesied, with more or less dissimulation, that “they will never get anywhere . Because the child who stays at “4” is simply not fit for success.

“I have always liked to learn. What I don’t like is being taught “

-Winston Churchill-

The education, today, is becoming in many cases a traumatic event. We have good professionals, but the system and the means do not accompany. This homogeneous, crowded and insensitive approach to the needs of children gives a real step to self-fulfilling prophecies. If you failed in school, you will fail in life.

However, another even more problematic dimension is added to the educational dimension: the family one. Sometimes growing up in an unflattering, discriminatory or sexist environment implies that we are inoculated with a poisoned defeatism from which it is very difficult to defend ourselves.

We suggest you reflect on these aspects.

When reaching something means breaking with everything

Sometimes the process of getting somewhere involves, in effect, having to break away from everything. The structural rebellion is undoubtedly accompanied by an internal revolution that not everyone is capable of making. It is necessary to demolish educational models, instilled family values ​​and those limiting thought patterns that for a time cornered us in our spaces of unhappiness.

As we say, it is not exactly an easy process, especially for women. We cannot forget, for example, that today, in this era of progress, many women see their aspirations vetoed by the weight of those patriarchal mechanisms that continue to prevail in many families.

In the interesting book “Resilience and Triumph: Immigrant Women Tell Their Stories” we are explained the hard process that many Indian, Arab or Mexican immigrants go through when arriving in other countries. These women are an example of daily struggle in the face of adversity. On the one hand, they must struggle to find their way with their families in a new society. However, there is another silent, dark and delicate struggle that is rarely talked about.

We refer to those confrontations that take place in the private sphere. There where the weight of the patriarchal continues to define the spaces of women with their parents, partners and their families of origin. Reclaiming her place as a woman and, in turn, encouraging new generations to do so, is an example of resilience. They are very hard dimensions that nobody talks about.

They are anonymous faces and names that day by day reveal their strength, their courage in their desire to advance, to reach a status of equality.